Have Your Dream Wedding for $8,000 (Or Less!)


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- Do you want a wedding
that looks like this,

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but the truth is, your wedding
budget looks more like this?

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Well, if that's the case,

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that's what we're gonna dive into today.

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(upbeat music)

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Well, we're still feeling the
effects of the coronavirus,

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and one of the craziest
parts of all of this

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is that so many people missed
out on huge life events.

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Whether that was prom, graduation,

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or one of the biggest events
of your life: your wedding.

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So, some of you out there,

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you had to postpone or
even cancel completely.

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This was one of Winston's friends.

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One of his best friends
was getting married,

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and they had to cancel it all.

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And they just texted us
one morning, randomly,

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and they were like, get on Zoom tonight

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because we're getting married.

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We were like what?

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So it was just crazy, right?
What's going on right now,

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like, it was just wild.

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So, I don't know your situation,

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or if you had to reschedule your wedding,

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or you're just starting to
plan it for the first time,

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but I wanna help you
reset and plan a wedding

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within your means.

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You can have a wedding that you love

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and still start out your
marriage with cash in the bank.

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So, in today's episode,
I'm going to show you

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how to do just that.

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I'll debunk some wedding
lies that everyone believes.

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I'll help a couple create
the perfect wedding budget

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for their wedding.

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And I'll show you some money saving hacks

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from a wedding planner.

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But the key here, you
guys, is just to remember,

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when you're planning your wedding,

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do not go into debt for it.

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Okay, we talk about no
debt on the show a lot,

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but this is the truth.

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The deeper you go into debt,

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the longer it's gonna take you to get out.

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And you end up spending so much money

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when you're not budgeting,
and you just say,

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oh, yeah, I'll add that
on. I'll tack that on.

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Because when you're just
borrowing money from the bank,

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it's like, yeah, add in some more flowers.

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Yeah, we'll add some more people.

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We'll get a band instead of a DJ.

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You start making all these decisions,

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and you end up spending
so much money for one day.

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Okay, let's just be honest.

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I loved my wedding day. It was great.

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I want you to love it too.

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But the rest of your marriage,

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you have so much time to spend,

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and if you take one day, go
deep in a financial hole,

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you're really probably
gonna regret it, okay?

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You really will.

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I've talked to so many
people, and they're like,

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why did we spend so much on our wedding?

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Like, it was insanity.

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I'm like, I know. Because we get caught up

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and we believe this lie.

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Like, oh yeah. Your wedding should be like this,

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this expectation, this level.

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And it's just not the truth.

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So, I don't want you to feel guilty

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if you have a small
budget for your wedding.

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So, if it's $1,000 you have
to spend, that's okay.

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You have $1,000, so just
spend it and be wise with that.

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The wedding is not about
impressing everyone else.

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It's about you and your spouse.

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So be realistic about your wedding

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and put your effort into the
marriage, not the wedding.

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That is what I told my
brother when he got married.

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I was like, listen Daniel, cut
that wedding budget in half,

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save the rest for marriage counseling

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because it's a much better
investment in your life,

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I promise you.

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And all of you that have
been married for a while,

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you're just like nodding
your head, saying yep,

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ain't that the truth.

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Now, you've probably been
told a lot of things

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about weddings that are just lies.

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Like, you've been told, probably,

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your wedding sets the tone
for the rest of your marriage.

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Or it's the best day of your
life, so spare no expense.

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But the truth is, that might mean

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that you're still making payments

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on your five-year wedding anniversary.

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Now, these aren't the only
things that you've heard.

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So let's break down a few of the lies

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that everyone has been told
when it comes to weddings.

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All right, lie number one:

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that all prices are the
same, no matter the event.

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Lie, lie, lie.

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Listen, some vendors mark up prices

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simply because it's called a wedding.

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One of my friends got married.

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She went to go get her wedding cake,

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and the bakery had just specialty cakes

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and they had wedding cakes.

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Well she looked, and she was like,

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well, I could just call
it a specialty cake and

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make it look like a wedding cake,

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and that's what she did.

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She paid $50 for her cake
versus hundreds of dollars

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of what the wedding
cake would've cost her.

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Another lie is that you have to spend

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a ton of money to get the
perfect engagement ring.

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The average cost, right now,
of engagement rings is $5,900.

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And the whole idea of like,

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well, he needs to spend three months

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of his salary on a ring.

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Okay, that rule came
from a marketing campaign

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that the De Beers diamond
company ran in the 1930s!

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You guys, they just wanted
to sell bigger diamonds!

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So, how do you spend less
on an engagement ring?

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Well, stick to your budget.

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Now, we recommend only spending

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one months' salary on the ring.

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There's another lie that you have to meet

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your guests' and your
family's expectations.

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But the truth here is that
you need to create boundaries,

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and this is going to help you.

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Wake up. This is your day!

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You get to choose.

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You get to decide what
your wedding looks like.

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So, who cares if your
guests want an open bar?

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Just give them a little bar of chocolate,

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and they're gonna love ya anyway.

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Or if mom and dad wanna invite everyone,

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Aunt Felicia twice removed,

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and she's on the wedding guest list,

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you just need to say, bye,
Felicia. Sorry, Mom. Sorry.

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No, I'm just kidding. You can be
a little bit nicer than that.

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But you know what I'm saying.

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Go through and say,
no, this is my wedding.

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So, here are the takeaways.

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It's more important that you
guys start out on the same page

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than just meeting everyone
else's expectations.

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I want you to love your marriage

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and start your marriage
off on the same page.

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Now, the last lie is that
you have to go into debt

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and spend a ton of money in order to have

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the perfect wedding.

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One third of American couples

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go into debt for their wedding,

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and lenders are issuing up to four times

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as many wedding loans than
they did just a year ago.

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And according to an article I read,

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one lender said that people are borrowing,

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on average, $16,000 for their wedding.

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You guys, that's probably on
top of other debt they have,

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like student loans, and credit
cards, and car payments.

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So, you're really crushing your dreams

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by adding debt into your life.

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And I'm just not okay with that.

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It doesn't have to be that way.

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A bigger wedding does not
mean a better marriage.

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So, in the next segment, I'm
going to bring on a couple

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who has $8,000 to spend on their wedding.

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And we're gonna talk through

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how do you budget, how do you save,

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and how do you still have a great wedding?

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As a mom, every day I take precautions

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to give my family peace of mind.

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It's simple things like
locking the front door,

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making sure the car seats are buckled in,

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and putting my phone
away when I'm driving.

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But we don't always think
about the bigger things, like

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what if something
happened to you or your spouse?

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All right, Mitchell, Meleah,
thank you guys for being here.

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- Thank you.
- Yeah, of course.

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- So fun. Okay, engaged?
- Mmm hmm.

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- Preparing for the
wedding, how you feeling?

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- Feeling pretty great.
- We're pretty good.

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- Are you just ready for it to be here?

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- Yes.
- Definitely.

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- That's kinda how I was.

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Like just, ah. Let's just do it.
Let's just do it.

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So, money, big part of the wedding, right?

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The wedding budget, it's a big one.

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So, I always start off with couples

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when we talk about wedding budgets,

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is you have to figure out your total.

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So, it's like this is
what we're gonna spend.

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So, do you guys have that number?

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- We do.
- I think we do.

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It's $8,000. It's a baby, little budget.

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- No, it's so great!

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That's the thing. These days, I'm like,

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you can pull off anything
for any amount of money,

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so that's great.

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Okay, so I printed off
a wedding budget here.

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Very easy. Very simple.

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So, go ahead and write
the top number there,

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which is $8,000, on the top
of the wedding budget.

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And then the next thing I always recommend

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is to go through the list and say,

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okay, what are things
that we value as a couple?

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Like, here are the things
we wanna put money toward

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because we love it.

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So, do you guys have a
couple of those things?

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Maybe three, four things?

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- Definitely the clothing, the dress.

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- All right, put a big circle around that.

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- She works in fashion, so that's—

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- Ah, so the dress is—
- a big thing for her.

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- It's just a little important.

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- I know, you just appreciate
it, right? You want it.

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I love that.

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- And the second thing was
a suggestion from family,

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and it's the photographer.

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- Yep, that's a good one.

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- I've heard that the
memories are important.

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- Yes, absolutely.

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- And it's better to have
visual representation.

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- Because at the end of it,
that's all you really have.

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- It's so true.

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Yes, get a good photographer.

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So, off the top of your head,
do you have an idea of,

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okay, this is how much we
wanna spend on the dress,

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this is how much we wanna
spend on the photographer?

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- Well, we kind of already
spent it on the photographer.

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- All right, so it's done.
Perfect. So put that total.

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What is that?

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- It's a whopping $3,200.
- Beautiful.

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- Massive chunk of our budget.

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- Part of it. But hey,
it's what you value.

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It's what you want.

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- And clothing, not sure yet,

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but between us both,
we're budgeting about $2,000?

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- $2,000, yep.
- Yep, perfect.

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All right, go ahead and mark that there.

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Okay, and so then you've gotta figure out,

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okay, what do we have left
to spend the money on?

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And then this is a great
place to look to see,

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okay, what are things that we can cut?

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So, I even just go down the list.

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So, do you guys have a venue right now?

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- [Both] We do.

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- Okay, how much is that?

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- The total was $800.

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- Okay, perfect. Go ahead and add that.

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Awesome. Okay, marriage
license usually is gonna cost—

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- [Mitchell] I think
it's $100.

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- Yeah, about a hundred bucks.

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Have you guys done a pastor's gift yet or

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you can skip it for right now.

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- No.
- Perfect, no worries.

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Okay, rings.

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- We've done some research,
and we think that we can,

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what would you say, maybe $600 or $700?

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- I think $600, yeah.
- $600?

0:09:56.770,0:09:59.580
- Perfect. All right, go
ahead and add that down.

0:09:59.580,0:10:02.613
How about tables, chairs, tablecloths?

0:10:04.230,0:10:05.820
Do you know, within your venue, what they

0:10:05.820,0:10:07.310
have provided or what they don't?

0:10:07.310,0:10:09.570
- They do provide some tables,

0:10:09.570,0:10:13.190
but we don't know if we want to use them.

0:10:13.190,0:10:14.641
We haven't really decided.

0:10:14.641,0:10:15.597
- We have yet to decide.

0:10:15.597,0:10:16.430
- Perfect, so we can skip on that.

0:10:16.430,0:10:19.830
How about chairs,
tablecloths, anything here?

0:10:19.830,0:10:21.700
- Same situation.
- Same situation.

0:10:21.700,0:10:23.380
- Okay, perfect. How about table decor?

0:10:23.380,0:10:25.337
- I think we budgeted
$200 for that, actually.

0:10:25.337,0:10:27.870
- $200, perfect. All right, yeah,
go ahead and put that down.

0:10:27.870,0:10:29.430
Flowers?

0:10:29.430,0:10:32.008
- Luckily that's provided by his parents.

0:10:32.008,0:10:33.262
- Oh that's great.

0:10:33.262,0:10:35.144
- Yes, my parents have offered
to come up with the flowers.

0:10:35.144,0:10:35.977
- You know the best part of that?

0:10:35.977,0:10:37.080
You just cross it out.

0:10:37.080,0:10:39.138
- Do you wanna do it?
- I would love to.

0:10:39.138,0:10:40.410
- Oh yeah, just feel it,
feel the money saying,

0:10:40.410,0:10:43.970
thank you. That's so good. So good.

0:10:43.970,0:10:45.650
Okay, it says photo of us.

0:10:45.650,0:10:46.890
- Yes.
- What is that?

0:10:46.890,0:10:49.000
- We would like to have,
as one of our decorations,

0:10:49.000,0:10:51.067
just photos of us printed out.

0:10:51.067,0:10:51.900
- Oh yes, all around.

0:10:51.900,0:10:54.010
I love it. Okay, how about the music?

0:10:54.010,0:10:56.479
Do you guys want a DJ, or do you know yet?

0:10:56.479,0:10:59.710
- We're gonna have a friend
manning a Spotify playlist.

0:10:59.710,0:11:00.543
- Oh, I love it, you guys.

0:11:00.543,0:11:02.540
- [Meleah] However—
- String quartet.

0:11:02.540,0:11:04.113
- This was his request.

0:11:04.113,0:11:05.963
- It's beautiful. It's beautiful, yes.

0:11:05.963,0:11:08.280
- I think we can find
this for around $600.

0:11:08.280,0:11:08.950
- Okay, yes.

0:11:08.950,0:11:09.783
- We may have to cut it.

0:11:09.783,0:11:11.460
- Yeah, well, let's go
ahead and fill it all out,

0:11:11.460,0:11:12.440
because then we'll go back and say,

0:11:12.440,0:11:14.420
okay, what do we have
left from the $8,000?

0:11:14.420,0:11:15.780
Nope, that's perfect.

0:11:15.780,0:11:17.234
Okay, invitations?

0:11:17.234,0:11:19.786
- I'd say $50, right?
- $50-ish.

0:11:19.786,0:11:20.870
- Okay, we'll do $50.
- $50.

0:11:20.870,0:11:23.890
- And yeah, okay, so
cake, this is a big one.

0:11:23.890,0:11:25.130
Have you guys thought
through this one at all?

0:11:25.130,0:11:27.770
- Yes.
- We have briefly.

0:11:27.770,0:11:29.840
And this is also something that my parents

0:11:29.840,0:11:31.911
have offered to help cover.

0:11:31.911,0:11:36.911
They are Costco proponents.

0:11:37.250,0:11:39.348
- Yes, I love them already.

0:11:39.348,0:11:40.690
- So they've decided that they can

0:11:40.690,0:11:42.120
get a couple cakes from Costco

0:11:42.120,0:11:42.953
and put it together on their own.

0:11:42.953,0:11:44.611
- Oh, that's so great.

0:11:44.611,0:11:45.885
I was gonna say, because
that's a great place.

0:11:45.885,0:11:47.920
I had a friend, and she actually,

0:11:47.920,0:11:49.020
instead of getting like a wedding cake,

0:11:49.020,0:11:50.913
she did a celebration cake
is what they called it.

0:11:50.913,0:11:53.010
But she just made it white
and made it look wedding-y,

0:11:53.010,0:11:54.470
but it was like half the price.

0:11:54.470,0:11:55.610
So there's places to cut that,

0:11:55.610,0:11:57.220
but a wholesaler like Costco.

0:11:57.220,0:11:58.734
Okay, so they're gonna pay for the cake.

0:11:58.734,0:12:00.750
Cross it out.

0:12:00.750,0:12:01.720
Are they covering most of this,

0:12:01.720,0:12:02.940
like cocktail, dinner and dessert?

0:12:02.940,0:12:04.243
- Any food.

0:12:04.243,0:12:05.612
- Okay, so all that comes off.

0:12:05.612,0:12:06.680
So go ahead and cross all those out.

0:12:06.680,0:12:08.264
- Which is a massive part of the budget.

0:12:08.264,0:12:10.250
- Okay, place to go.

0:12:10.250,0:12:12.300
- So, that's like the night of the wedding,

0:12:12.300,0:12:14.770
are we gonna get a hotel or . . .

0:12:14.770,0:12:17.540
But we think we're just
hoping our apartment

0:12:17.540,0:12:19.270
or house is ready at that point.

0:12:19.270,0:12:20.730
- Go stay there for the first time.

0:12:20.730,0:12:22.277
- Skip that.
- Do it.

0:12:22.277,0:12:24.700
And pre-marital counseling.

0:12:24.700,0:12:26.492
Does your pastor do it for free?

0:12:26.492,0:12:27.760
I feel like a lot of churches and stuff

0:12:27.760,0:12:28.730
will do that for free.

0:12:28.730,0:12:31.160
- So, we're not having our
church do the wedding.

0:12:31.160,0:12:32.520
We're having a friend
who's a pastor do it.

0:12:32.520,0:12:36.040
And he recommended us a few counselors

0:12:36.040,0:12:37.969
that we haven't reached out
to yet, but we will soon.

0:12:37.969,0:12:40.377
- I had pre-marital counseling.
It's worth the investment.

0:12:40.377,0:12:42.020
If you have it in the budget,
it's definitely worth it.

0:12:42.020,0:12:43.860
But there are places, like
some churches and stuff,

0:12:43.860,0:12:45.360
they'll do it for free for a few sessions.

0:12:45.360,0:12:47.610
So we can leave that blank for right now.

0:12:47.610,0:12:49.460
So, let's add up what we have so far.

0:12:49.460,0:12:52.650
It's like $7,600.

0:12:52.650,0:12:56.310
So, with the $400 left, I mean honestly,

0:12:56.310,0:12:59.490
a nice gift card here
for like a $100

0:12:59.490,0:13:01.060
I think would be very nice.

0:13:01.060,0:13:03.500
Your party gifts, I
mean, you guys can just

0:13:03.500,0:13:06.750
write a letter or print
out a picture of you guys,

0:13:06.750,0:13:08.527
with you and each bridesmaid or something.

0:13:08.527,0:13:09.510
- DIY something.

0:13:09.510,0:13:11.180
- Yes, I would go so simple there.

0:13:11.180,0:13:12.830
- Well, it's your sister and my best friend.

0:13:14.030,0:13:15.192
- And then string lights,

0:13:15.192,0:13:16.025
people have string lights everywhere.

0:13:16.025,0:13:17.710
I would ask around, friends and stuff,

0:13:17.710,0:13:19.440
and you can just plug them in together.

0:13:19.440,0:13:20.880
So, the big part I see, you know,

0:13:20.880,0:13:22.180
the tables, chairs, tablecloths,

0:13:22.180,0:13:23.140
all that for the reception.

0:13:23.140,0:13:24.840
We actually have a wedding
planner coming up next

0:13:24.840,0:13:25.990
that you'll be joining me, Meleah.

0:13:25.990,0:13:29.440
So, we'll be talking about
all of that reception stuff.

0:13:29.440,0:13:31.706
But sometimes venues, I feel like,

0:13:31.706,0:13:34.870
venues offer some of that stuff for free

0:13:34.870,0:13:36.160
as part of the venue.

0:13:36.160,0:13:38.420
And a big place is the string
quartet, like you guys said.

0:13:38.420,0:13:40.302
So, if you do have friends,
if you went to Belmont,

0:13:40.302,0:13:43.030
everyone's so musical there, so musical.

0:13:43.030,0:13:45.666
So, maybe you could cut that down a little

0:13:45.666,0:13:47.090
if you needed to for a little wiggle room.

0:13:47.090,0:13:48.660
But honestly, you guys are killing it.

0:13:48.660,0:13:49.820
This looks great.

0:13:49.820,0:13:50.990
Because here's what I love about it.

0:13:50.990,0:13:52.010
You did what you wanted.

0:13:52.010,0:13:54.050
You got your dress. You
put in the photographer.

0:13:54.050,0:13:55.500
Like, those were the big things.

0:13:55.500,0:13:56.890
So, you make that your starting point,

0:13:56.890,0:13:57.740
and then from here you just figure out,

0:13:57.740,0:13:59.120
okay, here are things that we can cut.

0:13:59.120,0:14:00.830
Here are things we really don't need.

0:14:00.830,0:14:02.570
And you're able to make
decisions based on that.

0:14:02.570,0:14:05.363
So, does this feel good? How do you feel?

0:14:05.363,0:14:06.196
- Yeah.
- It does feel good.

0:14:06.200,0:14:07.540
- Actually, I feel a lot better about it.

0:14:07.540,0:14:08.240
- Do you?

0:14:08.240,0:14:09.480
- Yeah, I do. I was so nervous.

0:14:09.480,0:14:11.080
- Having it all in one
place is very helpful.

0:14:11.080,0:14:12.240
- It's so helpful. I know.

0:14:12.240,0:14:15.420
Budgeting, whether it's regular
budgets that you do monthly

0:14:15.420,0:14:16.900
or it's a wedding budget for something,

0:14:16.900,0:14:19.270
having a visual is so important.

0:14:19.270,0:14:20.770
So it is, it takes everything that's kinda

0:14:20.770,0:14:22.550
stressful up here, puts it right here.

0:14:22.550,0:14:24.770
So, thank you guys so much for being here.

0:14:24.770,0:14:27.780
This is so great, and I'm so
glad you feel a little easier.

0:14:27.780,0:14:28.613
- Thank you.

0:14:28.613,0:14:29.446
- Love it. Love it.

0:14:29.446,0:14:31.270
And for you guys, think
about all the creative things

0:14:31.270,0:14:32.103
they just did.

0:14:32.103,0:14:34.070
I mean, everything from
a cake from Costco,

0:14:34.070,0:14:36.760
a Spotify playlist. This stuff works,

0:14:36.760,0:14:38.630
so go the budget route.

0:14:38.630,0:14:41.850
I promise, for the long
run, it's so, so worth it.

0:14:41.850,0:14:43.190
Now, if you guys are
looking for an easy way

0:14:43.190,0:14:45.660
to organize all of your
wedding numbers in one place,

0:14:45.660,0:14:48.400
I've created a fun
wedding budget printable

0:14:48.400,0:14:50.590
so you can work out these numbers together.

0:14:50.590,0:14:52.470
So click the link below.

0:14:52.470,0:14:53.500
All right, coming up next,

0:14:53.500,0:14:55.640
we have a wedding planner
coming on to help save

0:14:55.640,0:14:58.766
some more money in some of the
areas we just talked about.

0:14:58.766,0:15:01.340
(upbeat music)

0:15:05.680,0:15:07.800
All right, so the next step
after looking at the budget

0:15:07.800,0:15:10.200
is to find ways to cut the budget.

0:15:10.200,0:15:12.730
And so saving money,
obviously, is so important.

0:15:12.730,0:15:15.520
So I brought in the expert

0:15:15.520,0:15:17.240
when it comes to all
wedding things, Alyssa.

0:15:17.240,0:15:19.430
She owns NashvilleBrideGuide.com,

0:15:19.430,0:15:21.030
and she's here to help us figure out,

0:15:21.030,0:15:24.810
okay, how do we take a
Pinterest-beautiful picture,

0:15:24.810,0:15:26.580
but make it reasonable and within budget?

0:15:26.580,0:15:29.020
- Exactly, I mean there's
this whole Pinterest effect

0:15:29.020,0:15:31.920
that happens when you're
looking online for your wedding

0:15:31.920,0:15:33.660
and getting inspiration,

0:15:33.660,0:15:36.080
but you don't know the price tag

0:15:36.080,0:15:37.840
that's attached to that picture.

0:15:37.840,0:15:40.100
So, that's what I like to
call the Pinterest effect.

0:15:40.100,0:15:43.140
And you, Meleah,
congratulations, first of all.

0:15:43.140,0:15:44.684
- Thank you, thanks.

0:15:44.684,0:15:48.070
- You sent in some
awesome inspiration photos

0:15:48.070,0:15:50.060
of some tablescapes that you love.

0:15:50.060,0:15:51.920
I love the whole dark and moody look

0:15:51.920,0:15:53.320
that you have going on.

0:15:53.320,0:15:56.250
Like, with the black pops and stuff like that.

0:15:56.250,0:16:00.450
So, I brought in two
inspiration tables today.

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- And I'll say this,

0:16:01.820,0:16:03.590
I don't even know which one is the budget

0:16:03.590,0:16:05.480
and which one's the
Pinterest one, so well done.

0:16:05.480,0:16:07.870
Okay, so walk us through, kind
of like, what is all of this?

0:16:07.870,0:16:12.080
- So, this is the more luxury tablescape

0:16:12.080,0:16:13.930
versus the more budget tablescape.

0:16:13.930,0:16:16.810
Which they still look
pretty similar, right?

0:16:16.810,0:16:18.240
- With the more luxury table,

0:16:18.240,0:16:20.100
if you have this picture in mind

0:16:20.100,0:16:22.680
and you're like, I really
want this for my wedding,

0:16:22.680,0:16:23.940
you can still do it,

0:16:23.940,0:16:25.910
just do it like for your sweetheart table

0:16:25.910,0:16:27.370
or just for your head table

0:16:27.370,0:16:30.440
if you can't give up these
black plates, you know,

0:16:30.440,0:16:31.860
because they're out of your budget.

0:16:31.860,0:16:33.806
It's like, you can just have two plates,

0:16:33.806,0:16:36.550
and then everybody else has
a white plate, you know?

0:16:36.550,0:16:38.340
So, you can switch it up like that.

0:16:38.340,0:16:41.270
My next tip is guest count, which Rachel,

0:16:41.270,0:16:43.030
I feel like you would agree,

0:16:43.030,0:16:46.210
the biggest way to save
on your wedding budget

0:16:46.210,0:16:47.620
is through your guest count.

0:16:47.620,0:16:51.800
So, as much as you can
limit that or chop it,

0:16:51.800,0:16:52.800
the more you're gonna save.

0:16:52.800,0:16:53.660
- Because here's the deal too.

0:16:53.660,0:16:55.130
I remember getting married, and like,

0:16:55.130,0:16:56.910
when we got people saying
they couldn't come,

0:16:56.910,0:17:00.070
we were like, yes! Okay, good.
This is gonna save money!

0:17:00.070,0:17:01.230
Isn't that terrible, though?

0:17:01.230,0:17:03.160
But it's true. It really is,

0:17:03.160,0:17:05.070
being able to cut that wedding guest, yes.

0:17:05.070,0:17:07.610
Okay, get tactical with
me for just a second.

0:17:07.610,0:17:08.460
- Let's break it down.

0:17:08.460,0:17:09.600
Let's start with linens.

0:17:09.600,0:17:13.530
So, this linen cost about $50 just to rent

0:17:13.530,0:17:15.393
for one wedding table.

0:17:15.393,0:17:18.440
Versus this linen is a polyester linen,

0:17:18.440,0:17:21.530
and this is about $15 per linen.

0:17:21.530,0:17:23.750
And then let's talk about chairs.

0:17:23.750,0:17:26.530
So, looking at that chair over there,

0:17:26.530,0:17:28.320
it's a beautiful Chiavari chair.

0:17:28.320,0:17:29.153
I love those.

0:17:29.153,0:17:32.270
You had some of those in
your images that you pinned.

0:17:32.270,0:17:36.133
Those run about $8.30 per
chair here in Nashville.

0:17:36.133,0:17:39.870
Multiply that by 100, that's $830

0:17:39.870,0:17:42.800
that you're spending just
on your wedding chairs.

0:17:42.800,0:17:43.860
- Which is crazy. How much is that?

0:17:43.860,0:17:45.830
- Versus this is $2.90.

0:17:45.830,0:17:46.663
- [Meleah] I love it.

0:17:46.663,0:17:48.920
- Yeah, these are like the
classic wedding chairs, anyway.

0:17:48.920,0:17:49.753
I mean, they're comfortable.

0:17:49.753,0:17:51.090
I feel like people expect these.

0:17:51.090,0:17:52.900
And then breaking it down even further,

0:17:52.900,0:17:54.832
like to the place setting.

0:17:54.832,0:17:56.890
What's your wedding food looking like?

0:17:56.890,0:17:58.084
Like a buffet?

0:17:58.084,0:17:59.482
- Maybe a buffet will probably work.

0:17:59.482,0:18:01.340
I've seen that it will be less expensive

0:18:01.340,0:18:03.280
than a plated meal.

0:18:03.280,0:18:06.150
- Yeah, exactly. So if you
guys are doing a buffet,

0:18:06.150,0:18:09.100
you may not necessarily
need a salad plate.

0:18:09.100,0:18:11.300
So that means you don't
need a salad fork either.

0:18:11.300,0:18:13.330
And then same thing with chargers.

0:18:13.330,0:18:16.020
Food doesn't go on them.
They're just decoration.

0:18:16.020,0:18:18.270
I put it in there because I
know you like the black theme,

0:18:18.270,0:18:20.940
but you could definitely have
pops of black elsewhere too.

0:18:20.940,0:18:22.970
And then, think about it,

0:18:22.970,0:18:25.340
for your cake or for your appetizers,

0:18:25.340,0:18:29.230
you can do these clear plates
that are still really nice.

0:18:29.230,0:18:32.743
They cost about half of what
a regular rental plate costs.

0:18:33.580,0:18:37.950
You can get bamboo forks
or the nicer plastic forks

0:18:37.950,0:18:39.524
for this too.

0:18:39.524,0:18:42.300
And then same with your glassware.

0:18:42.300,0:18:45.950
You can have little filling
stations around your wedding,

0:18:45.950,0:18:48.930
like for your water. Or you
could put wine in this,

0:18:48.930,0:18:51.750
water in this, and then
that can even forego

0:18:51.750,0:18:56.380
a champagne toast. It can
forego your water or wine.

0:18:56.380,0:18:58.550
So again, this is saving even more money.

0:18:58.550,0:19:00.880
- Okay, another great
place to save is florals

0:19:00.880,0:19:04.400
because flowers are so dang
expensive, like insane.

0:19:04.400,0:19:06.687
I remember our wedding budget,
that's the places I cut.

0:19:06.687,0:19:08.530
Because we got our floral
budget back, and I was like,

0:19:08.530,0:19:10.450
what? For flowers?

0:19:10.450,0:19:13.610
It is crazy. It's so easy
to spend so much on flowers.

0:19:13.610,0:19:14.770
- Yeah, for sure.

0:19:14.770,0:19:16.360
So, on your inspiration board,

0:19:16.360,0:19:18.880
you had like some little
bottles with little

0:19:18.880,0:19:20.610
sprigs of flowers in them, which I think

0:19:20.610,0:19:22.130
is a really great option.

0:19:22.130,0:19:24.900
Even these black vases are great too.

0:19:24.900,0:19:26.760
If you wanted this for your wedding,

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it would probably cost
$75 for all of the tables.

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- Oh wow.
- Yeah.

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And then this one, which we
see on Pinterest all the time,

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and it looks so gorgeous.

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This cost about $500
for your full wedding.

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So, I mean, think about that
major price difference there.

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- And I don't need the big bouquets.

0:19:45.300,0:19:46.133
- Sure.

0:19:46.133,0:19:49.550
- It's really not a priority
to me to spend money on that.

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So, I love this.

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- So great.

0:19:52.260,0:19:55.120
- Another great way to
save on flowers is like,

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think of what season that
you're getting married in,

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if it's like summer, and
make sure you pick flowers

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that are in season in summer,

0:20:01.680,0:20:02.790
because you're gonna pay extra

0:20:02.790,0:20:05.170
if you need to get them
imported from somewhere.

0:20:05.170,0:20:06.890
- Okay, Alyssa, you had some great tips.

0:20:06.890,0:20:08.820
It's like so good. So tactical.

0:20:08.820,0:20:11.120
Okay, so for you, what is
something that you're like,

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oh yeah, I would cut that and be great.

0:20:14.200,0:20:15.090
- We don't need salad.

0:20:15.090,0:20:19.580
We can cut the salad plates
and the fancy glasses.

0:20:19.580,0:20:20.870
This is beautiful.

0:20:20.870,0:20:22.920
- Absolutely, it's so good.

0:20:22.920,0:20:23.770
I love it, okay.

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Alyssa, now I wanna know the total.

0:20:25.550,0:20:26.383
- Yes.

0:20:26.383,0:20:29.390
- Budget friendly versus Pinterest worthy.

0:20:29.390,0:20:30.780
Give me the total for both.

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- Let's break it down.

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So, this table is actually three times more

0:20:35.670,0:20:37.640
than this table is.

0:20:37.640,0:20:38.480
- Wow, that's incredible.

0:20:38.480,0:20:40.300
- Yeah, which is crazy.

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So, if you think about it,

0:20:42.270,0:20:45.610
each place setting at this
table is going to cost you

0:20:45.610,0:20:47.990
about $25 per person.

0:20:47.990,0:20:50.130
Versus, once we took everything away,

0:20:50.130,0:20:52.620
between $7 and $9 per person.

0:20:52.620,0:20:53.600
- [Meleah] That's so great.

0:20:53.600,0:20:54.560
- That's incredible.

0:20:54.560,0:20:55.393
And here's the deal too.

0:20:55.393,0:20:56.450
When you're a guest at a wedding,

0:20:56.450,0:20:58.070
I'm like, it's a great
wedding. It's my friends.

0:20:58.070,0:21:00.760
They're getting married.
We're eating. We're dancing,

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We're doing all the things,
and it's so fun, right?

0:21:02.390,0:21:04.630
People are not sitting
there and nitpicking

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every little thing.

0:21:05.550,0:21:06.630
And if they are, that's their problem.

0:21:06.630,0:21:09.023
- Yeah, and they have
nothing to compare it to.

0:21:10.790,0:21:11.623
- That's awesome.

0:21:11.623,0:21:14.580
Well, Alyssa, incredible
tips. Thank you so much.

0:21:14.580,0:21:16.250
Thank you both so much for being here.

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This was so good, you guys.
I feel like I learned stuff.

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So great.

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If we renew our vows one day,
I'll use these tips. I will.

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Budget friendly.

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I hope you guys learned a lot too.

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And now that you know how
to create a great wedding

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on a budget.

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And do not forget to
check out Alyssa's website

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NashvilleBrideGuide.com.

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Now, I wanna hear from you all,

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so what's one wedding lie that
you find yourself believing?

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Because let's be honest,
we've all done it.

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All right, until next time,

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