For the next couple of months, I’m embracing work-life balance and spending some time with my new baby. Don’t worry though, I still have tons of great content coming your way!
You will do awesome! I have a 2 year old (as of last Saturday) and a 3 month old! It’s challenging, that first month with a new one. But, it is SO worth it! We have a wonderful daycare provider and our parents are close by too, that makes a world of difference. Trust me, you won’t “sleep when the baby sleeps” even though everyone tells you to. If you’re like me, you’ll be making grocery lists, cleaning or watching marathons of Gilmore Girls while snuggling your little peanut 🙂 Take care and best wishes! Remember, your instinct is what you need to trust. Buy a sleep sack that swaddles your little peanut, those work wonderfully! Blessings!!!
Congratulations! I saw her on FB and she is so precious. I was just talking to a coworker this morning and she asked how I balance it all. Ha, I don’t! I have a seven year old and I told her that some things you just have to let fall by the waist side. I don’t think it’s possible to do it all and still be happy and sane. Just enjoy your new baby and before you know it, she will be old enough to help with the chores and you can start to get back to other things you did before you had a child.
So glad that you are taking time to rest! Enjoy the early days as much as possible. nnI am a mom of 3. I run a business from home and homeschool my oldest. Life is crazy but we have found a good rhythm. You will find your rhythm too!nnJust remember that its OK to have a messy home, laundry will get done…eventually, ask for help, and the slow cooker is your bff!nnCongratulations on your beautiful baby girl! Life is forever changed as you know it. Embrace this season.
Congratulations!!! I am a working/ sahm, as I work from home and I enjoy the time with my pumpkin!! My best advice, figure out a schedule and keep on track with that schedule. Once your sweet baby falls into a routine, keep it! A routine and schedule are key for a happy baby AND happy mommy!
THIS is probably the best advice ever! My wife is ALL about routines and schedules and she was right. Our boys are older now but this was the one piece that really created a great balance for everything in our life.
Congratulations! Enjoy your time off and that little one because it goes by so quickly. Everyone told me that but it is one of those things that doesn’t really register because there is so much going on and just life in general until one day you’ll look at her and think wait what happened to the last few days, months, years, etc. As a Mom whether or not you are a working Mom or stay at home Mom I think the one thing I’ve learned is to figure out what you want and what works for you and then to accept that. Not saying that there won’t be days and moments where guilt or doubt will visit you but then you have to push it aside and keep going. I think you can have it all–it is just determining what “having it all” means to you. Also I will say to show grace to yourself and to others. Each day, each moment, each child is different and when you think you have either mastered something or figured out a stage it all changes. As Moms we’re all just doing our best. So, enjoy this time and do what works best for you and you’ll figure out that work life balance. It takes a bit of time. Easy meals are the best and sometimes frozen meals and crock pot meals become your best friend.
“Schedule” is a crazy word to use the first month or two. Just go with the flow that baby creates. I have a 4 month old and am just now getting into a groove where I’ve figured out when he wants to nap and he is just now starting to sleep through the night. There’s nothing wrong if your baby isn’t sleeping through the night at 6 weeks (both my girls did!), just means she might need momma some more. An awesome breastfeeding support website is The Leaky Boob, they’re on Facebook as well.
Look into cloth diapers! Also, we just had our first girl 5 months ago. Enjoy it, don’t stress out about her “milestones” or lack thereof. Definitely don’t compare–it does no one any good. Follow Dr.’s recommendations, but still find what works for you and you’re family. nnAs far as cooking supper goes, since she’s your first, find her longest napping time and prepare supper then. You don’t have to cook it, but chop veggies, take out meat to defrost, make any sauces or mixtures you will have to. For instance, my girl sleeps the best at 10 am, so that’s when I make sure my meals are ready to go. nnLastly, take it all in stride. If she’s a difficult baby, I am sorry, but it will become the new normal. A baby of any sorts makes your life go awesomely crazy. Don’t apologize for parenting choices you CHOOSE to make. (We rock our little girl to bed, started feeding her solids from 4 months, don’t give her all the vaccinations, and cloth diaper–and she couldn’t be happier, she sleeps through the night with 8+ hours). Allow yourself time to learn what your baby needs, and allow grace for yourself.
Hi Rachel! nCongratulations on your daughter! 🙂 I apologize i am not a mom, so i do not have any advice. 🙁 I am excited for all your new videos coming! I really enjoy watching all of them! 🙂 Best wishes to you and your family always! XOnNicole xx
Get ready for the day! I didn’t do that and felt really gross and it didn’t help with the little of PPD I had. Next time around I am not going to spend all day every day in pjs!
Trust yourself. You will spend more time with baby than anyone else. If you feel something is wrong then seek medical advice no matter what anyone says. But know that the first time your sweet baby runs a crazy high temp 103, 104 try not to run straight to the hospital because they will make you wish you hadn’t. baby tylenol and motrin will do the trick and luke warm wash cloths under the arms and around the neck. I took my sweet baby to the hospital and they put a cold towel around him and handed him to me to scream……. I cried, I felt so bad. We never went for a fever again. 🙂
Cuddle that baby! The laundry and dishes can wait. They grow up way too fast and too many parents rush the sleeping through the night when all that baby wants is mama love, and to eat. It’s normal for a baby to wake frequently. It’s hard being sleep deprived, but it is a season and is not going to last an eternity. Enjoy every minute, soak it all in, and thank God for the miracle he has entrusted to you. Congrats!
All the changes in life that come with having a baby will really knock you off balance for a while – and that’s ok! Don’t feel like you have to jump back up and keep running at the same pace you lived at before she arrived. (I wish someone had told me this, although I don’t think I would have believed them!) Be willing to give yourself a lot of grace. And chocolate. When you do start to find your new normal routine, pick the day of the week that’s routinely the hardest and declare it your weekly pizza/take out night. Trust your instincts and be ready to recognize bad advise for what it is. Seek out other mommies that are in the same stage of life for companionship, and moms of older children as mentors. Add the numbers to the poison control hotline and your health care providers dial-a-nurse office into your phone before you need them. Take a shower. Take a walk. Take care of yourself. And welcome to this incredable adventure! – Crystal, SAHM of a preschooler and a toddler
Congratulations! Have fun! nnSchedules are so important. Put the baby down while she is awake for nap/bed time at the same time. She will learn to put herself to sleep. As much fun as it is to hold and rock the baby to sleep, she may later require that from you. It will be easier on you if you don’t have to sit in a rocker every nap time and at night time.nnGet a nightlight for the babies room that you can turn on and off when you go in at night for a feeding. Get her up, change her, hold her, snuggle her, feed her, then put her back to sleep. Don’t turn on a bright light, talk to her, sing to her, or turn on the tv. Don’t give her any stimulation to entice her to stay up.n nKeep a days worth of diapers put away separate from your regular stash. Consider this your emergency fund. When you are tired and forget to buy more, you’ll have your emergency fund to fall back on.nnKeep an empty box in the baby’s closet. As you dress her and realize that she’s outgrown an outfit, put it in the box. When the box is full, store it away for baby #2 or give it away.nnSleep when she sleeps!nnAccept help! Let friends and family come over and enjoy her and you go take a bath or a nap.nnWelcome, Baby Cruze!
I just had my second little girl 3 months ago and for a while your schedule will change as soon as you feel like you have it figured out. But the best thing we ever did was have a bedtime for our first. Every night we do a bath, read a book and go to bed. It is a little harder with two, but it has been awesome for our older daughter. She usually goes right to sleep and sleeps 11 or 12 hours at night. Also sometimes your house is messy. I work part time from home and most of that work has to get done after bedtime. Some nights the dishes get done and other nights not so much. I am type A and it drives me crazy… But I wouldn’t trade any of the time I spend with my girls. Plus our 2 year old has become a great helper and she loves to swiffer or use the vacuum so I take full advantage of that.
Thanks for another great vlog! I have 3 kids under 6, and work 20 hours a week from home (with all 3 kids), soooo. My top 3 tips to you are: #1. Remind yourself to enjoy your baby! They don’t stay small for long, even though in the middle of the night, it can seem like forever! lol. #2 Always remember that this too shall pass, whether it’s sleeplessness, tantrums, or, or! (at 3 weeks with my first I thought “My life as I know it is OVER!” I think that was the baby blues talking.) ;)and #3. GET HELP! Don’t be ashamed to get as much help as you have to in order to enjoy your new family and not burn yourself out! I ended up pretty close to adrenal fatigue before I got help. Oh, and another small tidbit; get a Moby Wrap or something similar and wear the baby while fixing dinner if she’s fussy, or use a swing; they’re worth their weight in gold! God’s blessings on your family!
Congratulations! Embrace this precious time!nI am a mom to 2 girls, ages 7 and 4. Like another mom posted, I also kept an emergency stash of diapers…and training pants during potty training days. Keep a stash at your house and at the grandparents houses – wipes, too. One routine I had was to restock the diaper bag upon returning home from an outing, then it was ready to go at a moments notice. As my girls got older and the diaper bag made fewer trips with us, I kept a smaller bag with extra clothes, panties, wipes, toothbrushes and toothpaste in the van. I am a nut about brushing the kids’ teeth before bed, so I always make sure to take toothbrushes etc with me if we’re going to be gone for the afternoon/early evening. nnWhen it came time for me to go back to work after baby #2, I started making my breakfast the night before…the stove was already on, so I just scrambled some eggs and veggies and then if the next morning was hectic (someone was a sleepy head, another was having a tantrum, etc), then I could just eat breakfast once I got to work.nnAs for your health, pay attention to your body…sleep when you can, drink lots of water…all that good stuff …something I did not know about until baby #2 was post partum hypothyroidism. 6 months after baby #2, I went for a regular check up with my family doc and had regular bloodworm, which includes thyroid (TSH lab test) because hypothyroidism runs in my family. WOW! My numbers were out of whack, which explained the fatigue, hair loss and weight gain. My hypothyroid turned out to be the “real deal”, and not just pregnancy induced. So the point is to just take time to take care of you. Blessings to you and your family!!
This old fable helped me so much: There was a good farmer with a large family that lived in a small house. He went to the wise man of the village to seek a solution to the space issue. The wise man instructed him to bring all of the farm animals inside the house to live for 3 days. The farmer returned after 3 days haggard and exhausted. The wise man then instructed the farmer to return the animals to the great outdoors. The farmer followed his counsel once again. The next day he thanked the wise man. Their home now had so much room, they could be heard without shouting, and they slept soundly. Being a mother is the most amazing, growing, constant thing I’ve experienced in my little life thus far. With my first baby, i felt so tied down. It was such a process to get out, do beloved projects, and just be the old me. More beautiful babies have come to our family, and I wondered what the big deal was with one. I’m not suggesting the additional children are the barn animals. But, sometimes God has, at specific times, given me so much to carry that it stretched my gratitude to fit again. Gratitude has helped me get out, and for my case, getting out beat the baby blues (and nutrition, and sleep, and prayers, and my kind husband, and good friends, hehe. It’s rarely just one thing). I’m so happy for you and your journey. Thank you for mentoring me. Have fun!!!
Take a Rubbermaid drawer and keep it in the trunk of your car, fill it with onsies, wipes, dipers, trash bags, blankets, bottles, and teethers. If a blow-out happens in the car you are ready, and if you forgot something at home or your baby starts breaking a tooth you are prepared. This is a life saver. I would also suggest some passies! Refill it as you find your stash running low! I would suggest scented little trash bags if you don’t want your car to smell.
Learn to trust the little mommy voice inside…if you sense something is wrong trust it..only you can really know what your baby needs…also let yourself be an imperfect mom…mommy guilt says you have to be 100% all the time but that is impossible…its okay to make mistakes…its okay and necessary to take time for yourself so that you can be a healthy mom…dont be too hard on yourself and dont let critical people be around you while you adjust to this new life..congrats!!
The days are long but the years are short! Enjoy!!!
Do not be afraid to say “No”! You and your spouse need your time with your new little one. People will want to come at all hours of the day but if you need rest let them know when it works for you. Don’t be afraid to ask people to wash their hands or to not get too close. I never liked to play hot potato with my babies. You don’t always have to be doing something, enjoying time with them is far more precious than a load of laundry. They will not remember how dirty your house was but they will remember the time you spent with them. I thank God everyday for the miracle they are! Congrats!
Follow her cues, mama!! When in doubt, nurse her. Remember to slow down and savor every second because it goes so fast! Your job, your house, your laundry, your dust bunnies, they won’t take care of you when you’re old. This is the time to invest in your daughter and get all the snuggles, kisses, and love in that you can!!! Congratulations, she is a beauty like her Momma for sure!
Remember the saying: “The days are long, but the years are short.” This is so true! When a day seems long, just stay in the moment and enjoy the little things. You will get through that day. Be thankful each day. Then, before you know it, the years will be flying by. Another saying that helps is: “This too shall pass.” This applies to both good and bad things. Again, just focus on something positive and you will emerge grateful. May you and your family be blessed with good health and many joys throughout the years. Enjoy this special time with your little girl. Ask for help. If you can afford it, hire someone to do the laundry, cooking, or cleaning for the first few months, if needed. You will never get this special bonding time back. Remember, they really do grow fast!! With this being said, please remember to care of your spouse and yourself. Your relationship as husband and wife can not take a back seat to your baby, within reason. The best gift you can give your baby is a loving relationship. They learn more by what you do than by what you say. Congratulations on the birth of your precious daughter!! I wish the best for you and your family. The best piece of advice I ever got was to be consistent. They learned what to expect. If you’re not willing to follow through on some consequence, as they get older, then don’t say it. Take time to think, before speaking. Sometimes silence in a heated moment can be the best action. In the meantime, just enjoy your precious baby girl. You can never hold or hug her too much. She needs to know that her needs will be met and that she will be comforted. You will have a happier, more secure child. Good luck. May God bless you. Congratulations!! Sincerely, Maureen
Its hard. Its harder than it should be, but its worth it.
I haven’t had a full night’s sleep in… I don’t even remember… BUT I would give up every night of sleep for my two girls. I didn’t get to carry my girls, one morning a caseworker with a three year old and a five day old gave me some paperwork and told me good luck I’ll be stopping by once a month for inspection. I was a senior in college working on my bachelors with a full time job and single (still single). There’s no maternity leave for instant moms or baby showers so I took what I could get. The moment that stuck in my mind the most was crying in the middle of the baby section at Wal-Mart trying to figure out what bottle to buy when a mother of three came up and helped me not only with the bottle but other items I didn’t even know I needed. I learned not to be afraid to ask other parents what their experiences are with different products. My girls are eight and three now and we make it work.
Enjoy each day and don’t sweat the small stuff…yes a schedule is great but you will have days where baby will want a new schedule and throw everything off- this may lead to tears on your part because of the cray cray hormones but it will be ok! Don’t be afraid to ask a visitor to watch the baby while you shower, get dressed, put something in the crockpot for dinner- they will be happy to and you will get a break as well…you don’t have to entertain them!
Two books to read that I LOVED – Babywise (awesome for learning how to get my little gal on a regular sleep pattern – she’s STILL a great sleeper – and she’s 3!!) and “Say Goodbye to Survival Mode” by Crystal Paine – AWESOME book for learning how to balance life with purpose… I need to rework all my efforts from that book to fit with my full-time work life again (I was only working part-time when I first read it). nnHope you’re having a blast!! The best part for me was being willing to soak in the moments in the newborn stage – screaming or sleeping, happy or sad – it made it feel like she didn’t grow up as fast & my heart still melts thinking about it. 🙂 Now, at 3, I let her take the time to jump in puddles, “touch the rain-y”, twirl in snowfall, and pick the dandelions. 🙂 There’s joy in watching her joy. 🙂
BABYWISE is so worth your time to read. My daughter and husband used the techniques and it made our granddaughter very easy to babysit because of the routines they established.
here is a money saving tip! don’t buy baby shoes until she starts walking! barefoot in the summer and socks in the winter – shoes never fit little round feet very well and they are just wasted money. trust me – you will spend a LOT on shoes later =)
Ah, what fun to read all these suggestions. My baby is now 24 years old. It went in a flash after that first year. Here are the things I treasure from his babyhood that I suggest you try. Smell your daughter’s head often after a bath! It is the most intoxicating smell that you will always remember. Work to get her on a good sleeping schedule. This may not happen for a few months, but start shaping that schedule for bed time and naps. My son did not sleep well at night if he missed his daytime nap. I loved to rock my son before nap and bed time. I read a book, sang some songs then put him in his crib while still awake. I loved those quiet, sweet times! Store all these treasures in your heart. Blessings to you all!
I agree with Becky, that BABYWISE is so worth your time to read. My daughter and husband used the techniques and it made our granddaughter very easy to babysit because of the routines they established. n
Congratulations on your precious baby! On being a new mom, I would give two very simple pieces of advice. First, enjoy and savor every moment with your little one. As someone said on an earlier post- The days are long, but the years are short. Second, take time each day (maybe more than once a day) to be refreshed in the Lord. I have been a working mom and a stay at home mom, and I find that I do my best when I have done this. Have FUN with your little one!!